@MrsBreezyyB
Thank you so much for your videos. You’re a great and intentional mother. I appreciate your videos as a 25 year old stay at home mother. Obedience, training, and maintaining a relationship where the child knows the parents are in the authoritative position is so important, but I can’t find that information from most people because people think that the word “obey” alone is wrong and taboo. You show me that you can be a kind and gentle mother and still maintain the authoritative role. Thank you so much and God bless🙏❤️
@EvangelinaLopez326
Thank you so much I don’t have anyone to look up to or that I can ask for parenting advice. I grew up in foster care and I’m the eldest of my siblings, parents around involved and now I have a one year old (mine) and a just turned 16 and just turned 18 year old sisters living with me as well. I’m 24 they’ve been with me for a couple years now and GOD THEY TEST MEEEE, I’m always doing my research and trying to find better ways to be the best parent and role model and your page made me finally take a breath and realize I need to slow down and not make things much more complicated. Ive tried “gentle parenting” and my kid will literally think I’m playing with him and laugh and inside I’m laughing too at some of what I’m saying & most of it hasn’t worked . Sorry for the little rant, anyway,thank you for your page keep going please. There’s more like me out there who need the info you’re sharing.
@aliajafri4450
All the people complainig here are the same people complain about how kids behave in public . I am 60 yrs old with two grown up daughter's , ages 34 and 25. People use to ask me what i did that my daughters were so well behaved. I was not a " strict " parent nor was I the parents who accepted that kids should run wild and scream and be little monsters ; especially to others. I did not want others to disrespect my kids and I would coach or train or give instructions to behave in an acceptable manner when going to certain places. 15:07
@ambermcdonald1302
I'm sorry but I just can't get behind this method. I'm sure it works, but it doesn't feel like positive parenting.
@greatPJ
I have some reservations about this method. First, I'm concerned it could restrict the child's breathing. While you addressed that point, it seems like there is a risk of breathing restriction happening unintentionally, in the chaos of the child's tantrum. Second, others could misunderstand this method and believe the parent is restricting the child's breathing, and file a police report for child abuse. In many states, restricting someone's breathing (i.e. suffocation) is a felony. Even if the parent is careful to avoid affecting breathing, that may not be apparent to an onlooker. That onlooker could be convinced in what they saw, even if they are mistaken. And if the courts accept that onlooker's testimony, even if it's actually wrong, that parent could find themselves facing criminal liability. I'm not saying that would necessarily happen, but it seems like there is a risk. Lastly, I'm concerned it may teach the child that physical force is an acceptable means of resolving problems. While I recognize that this is not "force" in the same way of hitting, etc., there is still an element of physical force involved in covering a child's mouth. I'd be horrified, for example, if I later learned that my child was covering other kids' mouths when there's a disagreement at school, etc. To be clear, I fully recognize that you are recommending this strategy with the best of intentions. Effective behavioral management is critical. And it very well could be that this is an excellent tool. In fact, I'm considering using it. But I have these reservations, and would love to know your thoughts. Thanks!
@amandasmith3182
I’m curious why it’s okay to put your hand over their mouth? That seems kind of restrictive. It seems as though a child( toddler) who is having a meltdown and possibly having anxiety and breathing issues would cause them even more panic and out of control issues. It would be by if you demonstrate with examples of positive results. Is that a possibility? What are the chances of your child just exactly that you tell them? I have back problems from surgeries and can’t pick them up, any thoughts and advice?
@bridgett641
Suppressed emotions don’t disappear, they come out in other ways. This is a great way to smolder a slow burning fire. This is self serving for the parent’s convenience and damaging to the future of the child’s emotional maturity. Disgusting
@beckys60
I wonder if you have ever discussed the physical reasons why children have tantrums and meltdowns? A child I know had many meltdowns and could not be consoled or gain control of her emotions no matter what was done until she wore herself out and went to sleep. Come to find out, she was allergic to artificial food colorings. Sugar and allergies can evidently play a part in a child's temperament.
@1Whipperin
"Strong willed" can describe compliant as well as non-compliant behaviors. The goal of training is strong willed compliance. Strong-willed is not necessarily bad. Having a strong will can be a positive trait, indicating determination, resilience, and the ability to persevere in the face of challenges. Thanks for the excellent teaching.
@cassidyscott4795
My child doesn't have long tantrums.... I love him unconditionally, give him attention. Sometimes he gets upset and throws a little fit.... why is that unacceptable? If they swallow all their anger won't that cause problems later in life?
@tresaglaser4162
This always works so quickly with my 2 and 4 year old. Benefits them so much as they do not need to feel so upset and out of control. They can easily move on from the issue and know I am not ignoring them while they scream and lose all control for an hour. It amazes me how many parents let their children suffer through major tantrums.
@shaefernweh1081
I started doing this method, and now my five year old has started covering my mouth when I tell her something she doesn’t like......
@herinekere2130
❤😊great job
@KaylieHustace
I am a single mom of 2, my son is 18mo old, i also have a 9wk old daughter. He has recently started short screechs/shrieks as well as very loud crying fits when hes told no (ei like when he wants the blanket she's on or tries taking her binkie away from her etc) When applying this method, how do i correctly and effectively keep him from moving, turning or backing away from my hand? Am i supposed to hold one hand on his mouth and the other behind his head? So essentially wrestle with him flailing until he gets too tired to keep fighting it? His behavior is dramatically affecting my newborn during sleep and ultimately just really scares her. I don't want to make any of this worse for either of my children by incorrectly applying this method due to not understanding completely. Thanks for sharing your knowledge!
@emloufox
Can you clarify? So we are to hold our hand over their mouth and literally not let go?
@nemishasharma5737
Okay so I have a few questions. Since you recommend this method even for preverbal children, how exactly is the child supposed to express his distress/dislike etc. if we train him not to cry or whine or fuss? We know tantrums are a normal part of development because children literally cannot contain their overwhelming emotions. With this method, aren't you teaching a child that he is only acceptable to mummy and daddy if he never displays these so called negative behaviours? Won't this lead to adults who learn not to voice their dissatisfaction?
@juanpaz6707
I tried this and it just doesn’t seem right to me. Is there another way that doesn’t involve covering the mouth?
@robingraves9271
I'm dealing with a strong willed child. I'm hoping this will break through
@alishaa333
THANK YOU SO MUCH!!! I am watching every one of your videos over and over. Thank you Lord ! I am so grateful God brought your videos in my life. Thank you for all your wisdom and your testimonials about your experiences. I don't have a mother or really any family so these videos are helping me more than you know. Thank you Thank you thank you! Keep em coming ! ❤
@nataliewallace6786