@elsW123
'If you're not intentional, your patterns will keep choosing people for you.' Perfectly put, thank you – I've been doubtful about your head/strategic approach, but discerning between heart/feelings and patterns is pretty thorny, isn't it. That said, when head/heart and wants/needs all align (and no one of those is tugging the other into distortions), then we know we're on track. So I guess intention = head + heart + wants + needs, when all are in good health.
@krishna335
By not chasing it desperately and not letting your life revolve around a person’s validation.
@moon-berry-13
this video is gold. full of info to hear on repeat until it all truely sinks in
@Sunflowergirl824
Matthew is always so passionate when speaking about these things. I cannot express how much clarity and peace these videos (well, the message) bring 💛
@KM-00
Even the most unavailable person is ready for the right person. Letgp and move on. Its fascinating how this experience is shared across all genders though
@crazyrainbowninja7097
When I started being more picky about who I chose and made sure that they were more like me, I found my true love. I’m dating him right now. He’s autistic like me. We both love the same things and have the same religion.
@Tay9060S
So many pearls of wisdom in this short video ✨️🙏🏻
@ulaw.9292
I love the "play the tape forward" exercise!
@yeokati7945
Matthew, I cannot decide whether it's your precision-cut wisdom of content or the brilliant choice of language you choose to express it that fascinates me more. It's pure delight to listen to you! I can't help but make transcripts of your talks to own them! You are fantastic! Thank you for sharing!
@lisabeck5582
Just when I thought I couldn’t like this guy more, I stumble upon this gem of a video. Often times I listen to videos of this nature in the background while doing something else, but this got so good that I dropped everything I was doing and just watched and listened. It was just that good and spoke to me in ways no other video has ever done before. Well done, Matthew. I can’t wait for more.
@anamkazim3740
State of the art workpiece Matthew!!!! ❤
@Prisoner4011
Got the book last year, and it was so enlightening and helpful. The mindset advice from the Happy Enough chapter really helped me deal with my sense of despair about finding real love. Where I come from, it feels like everyone is just trying to make a good business deal in dating, focusing on money and "profit" and "benefits" instead of actual emotional connection. Sometimes it makes me feel like an alien in my own hometown, but when I watch your videos, I feel like I can just breathe.
@Lijetwa
I need this transcript so I can print it, highlight, underline and read over and over again. So many gems. Thank you as always Matthew!! 👏🏽 👏🏽 ❤
@Imalovely-d6e
You're right and it's not our job to fix anyone. People have to want change for themselves. Some do get comfortable in certain situations because of the attention it brings, but at the end of the day, we can only control how we respond. Protecting your peace isn’t selfish,it’s necessary.
@buda2049
“If you are not intentional, your pattern will choose for you” 😮
@biasedknowledge
Brilliant breakdown. Interestingly, research in attachment science shows that people with inconsistent or unpredictable caregivers often confuse anxiety for passion later in life, which can make chaos feel like chemistry. Stability might not spike adrenaline at first, but it’s what builds the kind of love that actually lasts.
@salonsavy6476
“ The Right Person isn’t Ready “,,they cannot be Right !!,,
@emavanstek5442
Wow!!!! This video had si much topics where I’m in just now!! Thank you for the confirmations I just needed this right now This helps me further on my path ❤🙏🏽😊
@LolaK-s5l
Fortunately, I've given up on such things a loooong time ago 😊✌️
@candicereeder3007