@alicemilton8756
We’re all going to die and some of us will be in mediocre outfits when it happens 💀
@thestylegig
I posted a tiktok before work once, to my surprise it did relatively well, but I got off of work to find pitchforks. I’m not gatekeeping, I just work 9-5 💀 I get it, the commenters were mainly younger people who probably weren’t in school at the moment and have very different views of time/immediacy…. but it’s kinda funny, since the information they asked for was pretty easily accessible with a quick search. 😅
@milanpowell5759
love you for saying this !! people on tiktok are genuinely so annoying, esp when the item you're "gatekeeping" is a freaking sweater or plain t-shirt. it's so annoying for people to immediately call you a gatekeeper, & being rude about it ! like now im not telling you anything
@BijouxBianco
So weird when people attack others for "gatekeeping". When I want to know where something is from, I just screenshot it and use Google lens lol
@Mary-td2zw
The wildest gatekeeping accusations I see are on custom items when the OP isn’t selling them. Like I already knit the hat once for myself, I don’t want to do it again. Not all my passions need to be monetized.
@styleago-go3028
I think the reason why people feel as if it should be shared all the time is because our world is now full of influencers, therefore basically full of commercials. So if our lives are overwhelmed with being advertised to, people are now used to expecting to know everything. I get it, it probably is annoying. But it's also annoying to see a ton of influencers (not you at all but a bunch of ppl on instagram) get tons of free things, like really expensive things, and then it doesn't seem like they are advertising so it leads people to wonder why, how, they get all those things. It's confusing. One other thing that could be happing is the ultra fast way fashion changes due to tiktok and influencers on there basically shaming people if they are still doing this or wearing that. So the need to know fast and get things faster is now upon us. I love that you focus on 2nd hand and share what you can. I wish the s.m. world would get back to just giving inspiration and not making everything a damn commercial! lol
@CarolineTucker
welcome back!! this is a topic I’ve wanted to talk about forever so I’m excited this video is out and I wanna hear what you think! Also sorry for going a bit MIA I had some health issues in July that took a toll on me but feeling better and videos coming every week!❤️😚😚
@ashleynichole8687
Unless it’s your job (influencer), I don’t think you’re obligated to share. However, as a member of the plus size community, we have such limited options so gatekeeping is pretty frowned on. When your options are limited, sharing good finds feels like community caring for community. I notice this is really only a hot topic amongst straight size tiktok, I’ve never met a plus size person who didn’t offer the information up willingly. We all want to support plus size friendly businesses, so gatekeeping only harms our own interests.
@refugeofthoughts8870
I see nothing wrong with gatekeeping. No one owes anyone anything. It’s weird to me to attack people if they don’t tell you where they bought something. If I was on TikTok and got accused of being one I would not tell them anything.💁🏽
@elainakate
Gatekeeping is totally fine! People need to become a bit more creative & willing to explore.
@sillygoose3871
I agree with your points on timeliness in responding and feeling obligated to give these details, but I myself feel like the fashion space as a whole would be better off if it was less gatekeepy. In most hobby communities I've seen, people love to share their knowledge and help give advice, but in fashion a lot of times if people share details they feel as if their individuality is being challenged. This mindset makes for an overall less welcoming space. Plus, I feel like these types of comments (the politely worded ones anyway) come from a good place. We as consumers are not trusting of businesses. Fast fashion especially we do not trust the listings, the misleading photos, the fabric quality etc. so if I see something as simple as a white tank top that isn't sheer being worn on someone online with a similar body type to me I will ask where it is from because it is a rare come-by in this day and age-- thrifted or not. And as for gatekeeping encouraging personal style I would say that, in my experience, by going the extra mile and being ultra specific about what items I want to add to my wardrobe it certainly helps grow my personal style. Many times, the people asking where a certain item is from have their own criteria for items and don't want just any blue jeans for example. But still, people shouldn't feel obligated to say where its from or not but going out of your way to be rude for both parties shouldn't be the norm either
@lolomfgidc101
I'm the same! My personal style only developed when I switched to shopping second hand -- sidenote I went to the mall the other day and was shocked at how low quality the items were
@NaomiHolt
Greta Gerwig’s Little Women was my early high school obsession and what i would acredit for my personal evolution ❣️❣️❣️
@alanam.7911
It really irks me when people comment “what is this kind of top called” “what is this style” like girl can you not look at the picture and figure out some adjectives
@cmulo
This video is so interesting because I saw that exact Tiktok you posted on my for you page! When it was uploaded on there, I think I commented how much I loved your pants! I never would have thought to demand "WHERE ARE YOUR PANTS FROM," I just appreciated how nice they looked on you, that you are gorgeous, stylish ,and scrolled. I think a lot of people have this problem where when they see someone who looks good, they want to emulate aspects about them in one way or another. The easiest method to achieve that is through fashion. However, I always wonder.. especially with very extravagant/statement pieces of vintage clothing, how many people truly will end up wearing the items they beg for in comment sections? Even if they were to know the brand(s) of the clothing shown in the video, they would still complain they didn't find anything after searching for under five minutes. The original posters of these videos very clearly take time to curate their wardrobes to their own personal tastes. Which is why they have unique pieces.. it takes way more then a "where is it from" to develop your style.
@EmmaAlves
would looove a video on fast fashion killing personal style
@brianda5793
Exactly, I see a lot of people asking where is this from? On Pinterest and the logo is right on the items. Mmm 🤔
@kristie3592
As someone twice your age, I have a theory. Please forgive me for inflicting it on everyone. The most responsible way to ethnically clothe yourself is to actually buy well-made clothes you will wear until they fall apart and actually wear them till they die. I try to be ethical and buy second hand, but I still buy a lot of clothing, more than I could ever wear out. My husband buys 3 pairs of jeans and wears them until they fall apart. Then, he buys a few more pairs. He will wear the jeans for years and doesn't get bored with them. They are basic jeans. They never were stylish, so they also never go out of fashion. Even though he buys his jeans new, he consumes so much less than me. As someone who likes to experiment with styles, I own 10x the amount of clothing than he does. Yes, most is second-hand, but I still am a consumer. There are other environmental costs that second-hand clothing has. It was probably still transported somewhere. I traveled to the store as did all the employees. There are bags printed and used by the thrift store and register tape and electricity for the building. Nothing is free except not purchasing anything. My husband rarely purchases anything, and when he does, it is a "till death do we part" situation. There is one thing I will suggest for us fashion hounds. Buy well-made clothing and keep it. I have clothing from the 90's that I have pulled out and worn several times throughout the years when it was fashionable again. I collect clothing. I purchase really cool, well-made clothes, and when I grow tired of them, I stash them away in a plastic tub until the time is right to wear them again. The same goes for basics. If you are bored with an item you like, stash it for a few years. When you get it out, you may fall in love with it again. The main problem with fast fashion is that it isn't made to last. It is almost considered disposable. It is only constructed to last a couple wears. It looks faded and pilly after the first wash! And it is not just Shien and Romwae (sp?), even more expensive brands are cheaply made these days. This is why I like thrift store clothing. If it is going to fade and pill, it will already have done so. My advice is to buy clothing worth keeping and then keep it. Your future self will thank you.
@kis-pov
3:10 omg i hated that. tiktok blocking the words "link" and "bio" was soooooo rough for me. got called so many mean names.
@dkalisd