@Nikkiijean
The grass isn’t greener on the other side- it’s greener where you water it 💯
@EliseSmall-g3k
Watching this video really hit home for me. It brought back the pain of my recent breakup after a 4 year relationship. He chose to leave, and it’s left me feeling completely lost. I’ve tried everything I can to reconnect with him, but nothing seems to work. The hardest part is not being able to picture a future without him. Even when I try to move on, thoughts of him keep coming back. I’m not sure why I’m posting this here maybe I just needed to get it off my chest.
@TheAttractionTriggers
In a relationship, when communication starts to fade, everything else follows.
@reginasimon8784
The 3 reasons 1. The fear that I will make the wrong choice. (What if there's someone that's better?) The person becomes the ONE because you invest in the relationship. "I don't know if we'll be together in 6 months, but I like you enough to find out." 2. I will lose myself. What to do about it: listen to/pay attention to what the other one likes/needs, pay attention to what the other one likes then they'll feel safe in the relationship. 3. We can't trust the other person. There's fear the other person will change, or will they take my money. What are the things that show integrity, do we talk horribly about our exes? Do we tell our friends secrets?.....We trust when we feel we're with a person of character.
@Sumoni__Puri
I am an Indian women and I fear dating and marriage both. I have found peace in my own bubble that it is such a scary feeling that i might lose it if I choose someone wrong.
@rosemarynorman9290
When I met my now husband at work I had bought a kitten and knew he had two cats so asked him to come to Pets at home for cat stuff as I was clueless. That was our first ‘date’. He kept saying ‘ oh you’ll be fed up with me in six months’ I said well there is only one way to find out. After six months he said ‘ahh you’ll be fed up with me after a year’ and I said ‘well there is only one way to find out’. After a year I said ‘good game this isn’t it’ 😃 We have just had our forth wedding anniversary. Yes he has his quirks but so do I. ❤️ P.S I came to one of your seminars in London in 2014 and it was those skills put into practice that got me my guy 👍
@Derlet30
There is something important that hasn't been said and needs to be said: If someone exhibits avoidant attachment or avoidant personality disorder, you will not get commitment from them because they cannot offer commitment to you or anyone. This hasn't been mentioned at all and that's a disservice to the healthy partners who meet them and are puzzled by their behavior. Not all explanations for commitment avoidance are logical or "make sense," as Matthew seems to be arguing in this video. The claims made here are valuable, but they do not cover the subject of psychological challenges some people bring to their budding relationships.
@camellia8625
It can sometimes be a blessing in disguise if the person is umming and ahhhing - a chance to find someone better who is not indecisive
@nyuuuchan
unpopular opinion: instead of tricking and manipulating a reluctant man, just find one who wants You and is sure about You. A good man will recognise value when he sees it.
@stillhere5944
Maturity is when you realise it's not worth it. Love happens naturally or it isn't love at all.
@d.k.93
Gave him space, told him to go on and play PS to chill from work, encouraged him to go out with friends, been so supportive of his job journey, we were both paying for stuff, both made decisions...and even after such a wonderful living together phase we broke up 😅...sooo it's not always about that 😅🤦🏻♀️
@asequenceofevents1169
So much hassle 😵💫 I wish love was simpler and not such an obstacle course.
@jucxox
My ex was the only person that I could be around 24/7 and even doing the most mundane thing. It was always like we were the only two people in the world when we were with each other. Although we had issues, thus we are no longer together, I am happy that was a mutually enjoyable experience.
@Autumn_Forest_
I was with a narcissist on and off for 6 years before I learned what a narcissist was and what was going on. My biggest fear is having that person turn into a total nightmare as soon as we’re married, which happened to me.
@matthewriegner5180
Too many people don't have a good understanding of what a healthy relationship is. They're constantly looking at what the other person is or isn't but don't look at themselves or ask themselves what do I think are qualities of a good relationship and do I meet those. An inexperienced partner will try to control the other person out of fear of no control, but don't understand responsibility and capability to have control through kindness and support.
@lovelight6973
I want to fall in love with a man and have be a part of each others life but I also know we don't need to be attached to the hip. He can still have his interests. I can still have mine and we can do a couple things we like together. All these reasons are valid. Women have the same fears. My biggest fear is picking the wrong man. Bringing him into my life and he ends up being a bad man, abusive and makes life unbearable and difficult to leave. It's really scary. Some people don't reveal who they are till much later.
@almas3660
In my experience the pre-dating process that involves going out and talking, if it is done authentically it should be enough to get a man's commitment. Commitment is choosing and choosing is to eliminate options. If someone is not sure of you for any reason, and they are not willing to eliminate other options and choose you. I believe there is no way to get them to commit and end up in a happy, healthy, long-lasting relationship. My opinion.
@jrrichard1977
My problem that I am trying to fix is that I believe everything they say in the pursuing phase. The quote that has helped me is “not everyone has the same heart as you” but I have become bitter and just don’t want to be with anyone because of the pain I have been through. I don’t know how to not be devastated by a breakup and not effect my self worth. It’s a vicious and painful cycle.
@loveswintertrees
WOMEN STOP!! Stop putting effort into trying to trick or strategize. He either wants you or not.
@motheryuba57