SELF CONFIDENCE: 9 ways how to build it

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How to build SELF CONFIDENCE:

1. Identifying your ultimate dream lifestyle
Something that is a real confidence drainer is not knowing where you’re going in life. The great thing is you don’t even need to be sure about it; you just need to have a direction to travel in.
Try taking 30 minutes to write down a descriptive paragraph or two about what your life would look like if you could wave a magic wand and choose anything. I’ve found that answering these four questions in detail is a great structure to use:
1) What will you have?
2) what will you be doing?
3) How would other people describe you?
4) What will you think about yourself?
Write down the detailed answers to these questions, and use emotional and descriptive language. Once you’ve done this, make sure you re-read it regularly, at least twice per week, to remind yourself constantly about why you are getting out of bed.
This will increase your sense of purpose in life; a reason to live in a way, which will increase your confidence. Of course, to actually achieve this dream lifestyle, there are further steps you need to take.

2. Writing down goals and striving to achieve them
I remember reading about a study at Oxford University. Researchers asked all students in a class to write down their long term goals. I can’t remember the exact details, but only about 3% of them did this.
When the researchers revisited the students 20 years later, the small group who had written down goals were earning a combined income that was greater than the combined income of all 97% of their classmates.
There are plenty of free resources out there on how to write goals. The general key I recommend is rather than write outcome-based goals (e.g. “I will get a promotion”), try writing action-based goals that are under your control (e.g. “I will take a management course and then apply for a promotion”).
By making sure the goals are under your control, your confidence is not subject to luck. Remove luck by making sure that nothing and no-one can affect the achievement of your goal except for you.

3. Reading popular self-development books by successful business people
While there are far too many refuse bin-worthy self-development books out there, your safest bet is to read the memoirs and how-to books written by people who have actually achieved something.
It really is simple; if someone like Richard Branson is a billionaire, he’s probably a pretty reliable source of information on how to make money. It’s much better to listen to him than someone fresh from completing an MBA, and sharing a bunch of inexperienced theory-based conjecture.

4. Learning how to manage your state of mind
Usually, the reason you feel anxious or nervous about a situation, such as public speaking, is because you’re in the wrong frame of mind.
Imagine this: you’ve been studying accounting for three straights hours without interruption, when all of a sudden you’re dragged to a party. Straight away, you feel anxiety even though going to a party is not an unusual situation for you. So what’s the problem?
Your brain was set into the “studying” state, which is secluded, quiet, and antisocial. You are then thrown into a situation which requires you to be extroverted, talkative and social. This is a really uncomfortable imbalance for your brain to handle. The solution? Taking baby steps.
When you are feeling anxious about an upcoming situation and, you suspect that it is because of being in the wrong state, try to figure out some in-between steps you can take.
Using our example above, rather than going straight to the party, you could have a chat on the phone with some close friends, followed by pre-drinks at your house with just a few people. This way, by the time you get to the party your state has gone from withdrawn to outgoing in easy to manage steps.

5. Understanding the balance between learning, mentoring and action

6. Approaching strangers

7. Trying new things regularly

8. Surrounding yourself with successful people

9. Making a conscious effort to stop caring about others opinions of you



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